{"id":11006,"date":"2019-11-03T18:57:04","date_gmt":"2019-11-03T17:57:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.kalangu.net\/?p=11006"},"modified":"2026-01-13T14:36:57","modified_gmt":"2026-01-13T13:36:57","slug":"boring-frustrating-job-to-an-exciting-heart-centred-business-in-just-10-hours","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.kalangu.net\/en\/boring-frustrating-job-to-an-exciting-heart-centred-business-in-just-10-hours","title":{"rendered":"BORING, FRUSTRATING JOB TO AN EXCITING, HEART-CENTRED BUSINESS \u2013 IN JUST 10 HOURS???"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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Boring, frustrating job to an exciting, heart-centred business \u2013 in just 10 hours???<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t
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It always seems impossible until it’s done.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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I like to know about how my clients are doing after we\u2019ve ended the coaching process, so, from time to time I ask them what\u2019s going on.<\/p>

Last week I wrote to Adam (not his real name), a client from last year and I was very happy, because he called me right away to tell me his story.<\/p>

Adam contacted me in 2017 in July, to help him figure out what kind of work he\u2019d be enthusiastic about, because what he had studied and had been doing for years, is not it. Despite being popular in his workplace, surrounded by cool colleagues, he felt drained and out of place. \u00a0<\/p>

We talked for a bit and he made a quick decision for us to start working, after which we worked for exactly 10 x 1-hour coaching sessions, over the course of about 6 months.<\/p>

When we set his goal for the whole process (that\u2019s an important part of coaching, that we always work towards a goal, not just chit-chatting like buddies), and his goal was to HAVE A GOAL. \ud83d\ude0a<\/p>

This might sound weird, but it actually happens often that people who come to me for support, have no idea whatsoever about what they really want. They only know for sure, that whatever it is they\u2019re in at the moment is not good for them. Either they\u2019re bored, or find their work totally meaningless, or they feel they\u2019re just wasting time there, because they would like to be able to work with a lot more enthusiasm.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t

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After all, the time we spend working is a huge chunk of our waking time, so it does matter, how it affects our mood and life. <\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t
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That\u2019s exactly where Adam was when we started our work together. The only thing he knew about the desired work was that whatever it will be, it\u2019s important for him to feel it\u2019s right for him, it should be creative and coming from the heart.<\/p>

This was an important starting point. Many people are stuck for years in jobs, professions or businesses, which even if originally their choice, and seemed a rational decision at the time, has by now become meaningless and boring.<\/p>

Many made this choice because they wanted to continue a family tradition or go to a university where their grandfather had studied or do work which current statistics show as a means of generating great income. But it can also happen, that the work that used to be fun, gradually turned into a dreadful task.<\/p>

During these coaching conversations, my job is to switch off all my personal ideas, any advice, or seemingly rational reaction. It\u2019s not my would-be solutions that are important in this pathfinding, but for my client to figure out his own motivation, all that would help him find purpose and meaning in the work he would be doing.<\/p>

So, I turned off my own stuff, and started paying attention to the slightest spark in his eyes, any change of expression, the smallest sigh, or change in his tone of voice.<\/p>

Right from the start, I was looking for the first time Adam mentions something, that he did not get bored with relatively quickly in the past. Since I didn\u2019t know him earlier, I could rely only on what I heard and noticed at that very moment.<\/p>

Then an incidental half-sentence revealed that he had been baking bread at home for years, and everyone around him loved whatever he made. \ud83d\ude0a But this was just a hobby. However, shortly after our session he spontaneously signed up for an amateur baking contest, where he won the prize in his category! WOW. \ud83d\ude0a He hadn\u2019t even prepared for the contest. \u00a0<\/p>

In the meantime, we continued to work on what his ideal job would look like. Just for fun he found an accredited course for bakers, because he was really interested in learning baking the proper way. Just for fun.<\/p>

Looking at it from here, it\u2019s very clear that Adam is inspired by baking, right? So why didn\u2019t he become a baker?<\/p>

And that\u2019s a great question, to which the answer is not so simple\u2026<\/p>

Why isn\u2019t the profile of our job, or business the thing that makes us happy?<\/p>

If it were that easy for everyone to do what seems so obvious for an outsider, then surely everyone would have made the necessary decisions, and would have started doing that thing long ago.<\/p>

But there\u2019s a reason why we\u2019re not doing it, and that\u2019s usually some kind of inner obstacle, which cannot be overcome by great advice, or rational arguments.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t

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If it were that easy, no one would ever be stuck. <\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t
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Obstacles come in all shapes and sizes:<\/p>