{"id":7937,"date":"2018-06-05T19:24:31","date_gmt":"2018-06-05T17:24:31","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.kalangu.net?p=7937"},"modified":"2023-07-23T14:46:01","modified_gmt":"2023-07-23T12:46:01","slug":"take-back-control-a-quick-fix-to-feel-you-have-more-choice","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.kalangu.net\/en\/take-back-control-a-quick-fix-to-feel-you-have-more-choice","title":{"rendered":"TAKE BACK CONTROL \u2013 A QUICK-FIX TO FEEL YOU HAVE MORE CHOICE"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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TAKE BACK CONTROL \u2013 A QUICK-FIX TO FEEL YOU HAVE MORE CHOICE<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t
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You need to learn how to select your thoughts just the same way you select your clothes every day. This is a power you can cultivate. If you want to control things in your life so bad, work on the mind. That’s the only thing you should be trying to control.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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My very first coach always said, with sincere regret in her eyes, that there are no quick-fixes, fast solutions to change stuff that we\u2019d been struggling with for a while. No quick-fixes, I mean it.<\/p>

However, there are some seemingly small tricks that can bring about fast and real change, if we implement them more than once.<\/p>

As you know, it\u2019s been GDPR madness in the past weeks, and I\u2019m sure you\u2019ve also received hundreds of emails, asking you to reconfirm your subscription. I too was one of those, who made some serious decisions about whose list I will stay on, and whose I won\u2019t reconfirm.<\/p>

So, during the process, I realized, that if people on my list don\u2019t get back to me after 3 emails, and tick the boxes that need to be ticked, I will lose a small or even large part of my list.<\/p>

Just thinking about this made me panic.<\/p>

Am I really going to lose a big percentage of my list, after years of hard work trying to grow it?<\/p>

Will I really have to delete the ones, who don\u2019t reconfirm, If I want to respect the law?<\/p>

And yes, I lost a big part of my list, not wanting to wait longer for people to reconfirm. I wanted my database to be up-to-date, and so I deleted a lot of addresses.<\/p>

First, I was really sad, that so many did not choose to stay. People these days are flooded by emails, and constant noise from social media, so I do understand, when someone decides to leave.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t

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\n\t\t\t\tAnd then I had this crazy thought - how could this loss be a good thing?\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/blockquote>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t

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I started to think about the people who decided to stay. First of all, I\u2019m really grateful, that they chose me, possibly from hundreds of others They actually took the time to read my email, and did what they needed to do, to stay on my list.<\/p>

Perhaps for them, these posts and tips are useful, and they\u2019re definitely ready to receive more from me. They might be more motivated in changing something right now in their lives or work, and are ready to put some effort into doing things differently.<\/p>

This means, that the people on my list are the ones, who are engaged, and are active readers.<\/p>

What more do I want, then to write to these people?<\/p>

The moment I realised this, my energy level skyrocketed. If I\u2019m able to help anyone, who\u2019s in need of some new inspiration, or idea, or some useful tips about changing perspective, then that raises my motivation too.<\/p>

So instead of being sad, I decided to be happy about this loss.<\/p>

And actually, most of this was my choice. I could have kept the full list, going against the law, and perhaps delete it after a year. I could have begged those readers 5-10-50 more times, to reconfirm.<\/p>

But I made another choice.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t

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\n\t\t\t\tOften, we don\u2019t actually see how many choices we have. I know we don\u2019t have a choice in everything, but we do have a lot more choice in our daily lives, than we think. \t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/blockquote>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t

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They say we have about 70.000 thoughts each day, and a lot of them are like these:<\/p>